Are your teens always at you to buy,buy,buy?
Do you tell your kids, “Money doesn’t grow
on trees?” At the same time do you feel
like you can’t say no? And to top it off
do you feel that your teens are ungrateful
for what you get them?
If you are like most parents, you can say
no some of the time. But sometimes, your
teens just wear you down and you give in.
Then you just want to kick yourself and
find yourself wishing you hadn’t said yes.
I am going to help you with staying on
track for saying no, when you really want
But first, I want to tell you that it is
not your fault. You are not weak, a bad
parent or disorganized! Our society has
drastically changed in the past 30 years.
Buy, Buy, Buy is everywhere!
We have been conditioned to believe that
buying makes us feel good. But we know
that that “feel good ” thing is temporary
and only lasts until we buy the next thing.
Our teens are being conditioned at a pace
that makes our childhoods look like we
had very little. Now laptops, cell phones.
Ipods are rights of passage!
Now not only do you have an electronic
explosion, you have so much clutter
you can’t even think straight.
So here are a few suggestions to help
you stick to your values about stuff.
1. Don’t take your teens shopping with
you. I know this sounds a bit crazy and
at times will be impractical. But it
does solve the problem. If you don’t
take them to the mall, they won’t be
facing the material world some of the
2. Give your teens a weekly allowance.
In the event you do bring them shopping,
make sure they bring it and spend their
own money. They will learn quickly if
they want to save for something that
they really want.
3. Limit TV, Internet. The media wants
your teens to buy. They convince your
teens that they won’t be cool unless they
have the latest game or gadget.
4. Get your teens outside in nature.
Let them get creative with the outdoors
and the elements. Encourage your teens
to play sports and hike. Put up a basketball
hoop in your driveway. You’ll not only
be encouraging physical exercise, but you’ll
know where your teen is. (Their friends will
hang out at your house!)
5. Save electronics for special occasions such
as birthdays and holiday giving. You
don’t have to gift your children in between.
Having them wait teaches them not to
crave immediate gratification.
Visit my website at…
http://www.parentingpowers.com/ for more tips and
my free special report, “ How to Take Back Your
Filed under: Uncategorized on October 1st, 2007